Guilt - hope do you cope with it? My mother who has dementia and I have never got on particularly well and it is obviously worse with her illness. I don’t live with her because my sanity would be at stake if I did. She is not at an advanced stage, she is just accusing people of stealing things, repeats herself constantly and refuses to take any medical advice because she is very obstinate and thinks she knows better than the doctor. She lives with my father who is very old and has cancer. I have them round once a week to spend the day with me, I do their shopping and their finances. I simply can’t spend more time with them but feel constantly guilty that I am not doing enough. Any suggestions? I know it’s going to get worse.