Mums been in a care home now for a year at the end of next month. She’s settled, probably happier than she has been for a long while so that’s good but I want my mum back. The mum I went to lunch with and watch Strictly with.
I can still talk to her and of course I visit and spend time with mum and my children (who she looked after when they were little) go in, but every now and then I feel angry for what could have been and really sad, for the fact that things could have been so different. After my dad died, 5 yrs ago mum declined and just went backwards in her head, couldn’t cope with being on her own and was extremely anxious. The diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and dementia shortly followed.
I know I’m lucky in lots of ways but I’m grieving too and it’s grief for a person who is still alive.
I can still talk to her and of course I visit and spend time with mum and my children (who she looked after when they were little) go in, but every now and then I feel angry for what could have been and really sad, for the fact that things could have been so different. After my dad died, 5 yrs ago mum declined and just went backwards in her head, couldn’t cope with being on her own and was extremely anxious. The diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and dementia shortly followed.
I know I’m lucky in lots of ways but I’m grieving too and it’s grief for a person who is still alive.