I have just sent this email:
I'm sorry to trouble you Alan, but I am having to wear diplomatic gloves, and I wondered if you could advise me please. At a family dinner on Sunday, I was asked what happens during the "Welcome" by your good self.
I said that it would be an address to the mourners, explaining that this is service giving thanks for the life of John, and saying something like how much he would be missed by his friends and his wife Scarlett, children Debbie and Dan, grandchildren, Blah, Blah and Blah, and his son-in-law Mark.
My daughter would prefer that the order is altered, so it would read how much he will be missed by his wife Scarlett, his daughter Debbie, son-in-law Mark, his son Dan, and his grandchildren, Blah, Blah and Blah.
I said that I had always assumed that the names are read out with the spouse's name first, followed by children, grandchildren, siblings if any, and then in laws, but as it seems to be important to her, and as neither my son or I wish there to be any friction, could this please be altered?
Perhaps when this over, I should apply for a position with the Diplomatic Department?