Hi Everyone, RE: Post on cataract surgery. Mum seen a local eye specialist yesterday and the tumour appears to be similar in width and size as last measured. He said it was very suspicious looking and would continue to monitor her, if, the tumour changes in anyway, then she will need to return to the last treating specialist for treatment. The cataracts will be left untouched the specialist was so good with mum extremely patient and very accommodating as far as the dementia went. Mum was on her best behaviour almost, there was only one incident in the waiting room where she was telling a little tale of woe, unfortunately, for all to hear. Mum was telling me about a lady that sat at her dining table at the home, and, it was like a play I think all present were at first intrigued until the ending. We all heard about the seating positions the food and how one lady beside mum had to call the attended to let her know the other lady was a filthy gluten, oh it gets better, mum then had to ask the attendant to put this lady outside in the pig's sty because she had no manners then continued to say how lucky they were to have pig sty's out in the garden. I'm sure you could have heard a pin drop. Anyway, the not so good news. Dad had another heart attack he had been in hospital five days and was been transferred further down south for a angiogram, so I decided after mum had seen the specialist we would call by the hospital to see him before he went. Mum took a fall in the car park of the hospital a kind hospital worker took mum in her car up to A&E. Mum, as expected was quite traumatised very confused and just wanted to go home after sitting in a wheelchair for 1 &1/2hrs she was taken in and put on a bed, mum had landed heavily on her shoulder and thigh the doctor came to her 3 & 1/2 hrs later they managed to get her walking, no x rays were ordered and they thought because of her agitated state she would be better to go back to the home.When we left A&E mum and I waited for my hubby to bring the car up to the entrance she asked me where we were and had no memory at all of been inside the hospital ( just as well) mum is deteriorating so quickly at times I think her paranoia is the only thing enabling her memory. To-day mum is walking OK her hip is ab- it sore. Her shoulder, well she can't remember if she knocked it or someone thumped her. but, it's very sore. The hospital requested that the homes GP checks mum tomorrow. Dad's results were not that great his heart valve is very calcified and his kidneys are failing he refuses residential care, so he will be coming home. There is a long list of Doe's and dont's, somehow, I guess we will have to manage. His reasoning ability has taken a hammering and his short term memory is very poor but, at least I know now that I can get outside help and I will, if need be, I'm not shouldering all the burden this time round. Thanks for listening. Taffy.