I have thought long and hard and this morning i have decided i am going to have to give up my business to look after my MIL . She has lived with us for 3 years ,but it has been getting harder as she is now incontinent both ways and it came to head this morning when i got up to find she had took her pants off again and put then in the sink covered in No 2. , the toilet was covered some on the floor . I followed the smell to her room where she sat with day clothes on ,her night dress on the bed covered in NO 2 and on her slippers the cream carpet and bed lining. I made her take clothes off to find No 2 all over trousers as she had no pants on . I shouted husband ( who fell back to sleep) with out getting up he has a cold. I cleaned his Mum up , scrubbed the carpet and then yelled at my husband it was that or yell and his mum. As i needed help. He rang in sick , i burst in to tears , have decided to close my business giving 8 weeks notice. Does any one know what i can claim we claim attendence allowence and coucil tax reduction and guessing i can claim carers allowence now but £62.50 wont cover what i earned although paying some one is not an option at £20 /hr is more than i earn. .Just wont to scream . Out daughter is in last year at uni and now i not going to be able to help her , will have to use savings.