I care for my Mum 87 who was diagnosed with Alzheimers and vascular dementia last year. She is fading fast. She has always been very negative. Over the last 2 months, she has been very difficult to feed, so now I am giving her the high calorie drinks. For a week she had almost stopped the constant toilet going after every meal (I don't think she absorbed a lot of nutrients) but this has now started again. She has had 2 falls in the last 2 weeks, and is down to 6 stone. I am keeping her hydrated, have a carer coming in twice daily to help wash her etc, but feel so useless and that I'm failing her in some way. I'm also caring for my 95 year old bed-bound Father. Would it be better to catheterize her so that she doesn't risk a fall in the night? Do any of you have any advice if there is anything I can giver her food/nutrients wise? I know this is often a symtom of end stage, but boy, this is one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life, and this is a condition that really does devastate. Thank you.