You will know from my previous posts that I have had a difficult time with my Mum of late.
Looking back in my diary I see that the last time Mum slept right through the night was October 15th. Since then she has woken up usually 2 or 3 times and on a few occasions 4,5 or 6 times. She calls me to help her use the commode as she can't get out of bed and sit on the commode on her own. She will tell me to leave her on there and go back to bed but of course this makes no sense. I will maybe lie awake for an hour waiting for her to call again and then gradually drift off for maybe an hour or two before she calls out again. I am exhausted, bad tempered and feel really rough as I have had lots of stomach trouble which is being investigated.
Things came to a head after last night when my husband said this can't go on. He said I looked exhausted and was making myself ill. He let me lie in as I had a broken night but I was then woken to hearing my daughters sobs because my husband was helping her instead of me! So I called the home I had visited and liked and asked to get the process going to admit Mum. They did a preliminary assessment today and said they will send paperwork through for proposed admission in early January. I am sad but also hugely relieved.
My question to those who have been through this already is: Is there anything I should be aware of beforehand or that I need to do. I know about sewing labels in clothes. They said there would send a contract to sign. They said there would be a 6 week settling in period when the contract could be terminated by either side etc. Any advice greatly appreciated.
Looking back in my diary I see that the last time Mum slept right through the night was October 15th. Since then she has woken up usually 2 or 3 times and on a few occasions 4,5 or 6 times. She calls me to help her use the commode as she can't get out of bed and sit on the commode on her own. She will tell me to leave her on there and go back to bed but of course this makes no sense. I will maybe lie awake for an hour waiting for her to call again and then gradually drift off for maybe an hour or two before she calls out again. I am exhausted, bad tempered and feel really rough as I have had lots of stomach trouble which is being investigated.
Things came to a head after last night when my husband said this can't go on. He said I looked exhausted and was making myself ill. He let me lie in as I had a broken night but I was then woken to hearing my daughters sobs because my husband was helping her instead of me! So I called the home I had visited and liked and asked to get the process going to admit Mum. They did a preliminary assessment today and said they will send paperwork through for proposed admission in early January. I am sad but also hugely relieved.
My question to those who have been through this already is: Is there anything I should be aware of beforehand or that I need to do. I know about sewing labels in clothes. They said there would send a contract to sign. They said there would be a 6 week settling in period when the contract could be terminated by either side etc. Any advice greatly appreciated.