1. BethRebecca

    BethRebecca Registered User

    Jan 6, 2013
    19
    Somerset
    Hi I'm Beth, haven't been on the forum for a while. My husband Michael has frontal lobe dementia. It is gradually worsening. We have only been together 12 years and for most of that time he has been ill. I suffer from depression and chronic fatigue and so finding it hard to manage. House looks a tip. My doctor says I should be thinking of full time care but then social services say not because he can wash and dress himself. Don't know where to turn sometimes and just feel so guilty.
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,652
    Kent
    I don`t know where Social Services get their criteria from. Your husband may be able to wash and dress himself but; is he dependent on you for his safety? do you have any free time for yourself ? do you get a decent night`s sleep? does he share responsibilities? would you be able to depend on him if you were taken ill?

    If the doctor recommends residential care who is the social worker to dispute this advice? Not a carer, thats for sure.
     
  3. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    11,477
    West Midlands

    Least of all a social worker...

    I'm sorry you are finding that you need to battle and shout for what is right for you both. xxxxx



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  4. BethRebecca

    BethRebecca Registered User

    Jan 6, 2013
    19
    Somerset
    Exhausted

    Thank you all so much. Just feel l'm being pushed up a dead end
     

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