Just wanting to rant and although my friends ask how things are going with everything, I am very conscious that I never answer positively.... since there is always some problem/crisis that I am occupied with. So rather than rant to them, I thought here you'd understand !
As I've posted before, it's my dad with VD, I'd say mid stage but who really knows? My mum acts as his carer but she just sees herself as his wife. Recently though (early Dec) my mum's health hasn't been great and she has had mobility issues preventing her from getting out of the house.
On top of all the regular jobs I've slowly inherited, I've also been making daily house calls, doing their shopping, cooking their evening meals. I'm their daughter, I live 10 mins away. Of course I would do this for them.
As you will all relate, most days feel like Ground Hog Day.
My brother lives 400 odd miles away - so I know there's not a lot he can do. Until recently I have kept him up to date with Mum and Dad's situation, and I find it hard to take when he makes 'suggestions of what I should do!!!' Although since my life has been taken over by the extra stuff I'm helping with, I've not had time to drop him a quick text.... and then it dawned on me he hasn't been in touch with me or telephoned our parents to see how they are. I work fulltime, have 3 kids and a hubby who is very supported. But I have found myself becoming increasingly resentful of him getting on with his life. I've deactivated my Facebook account as I couldn't bear seeing photos of his life and the fact that he has the luxury of a social life especially over the Xmas period and enjoying a NY break !!!
I know that reading this back it probably makes me sound very childish. But it's how I feel. I am taking time off work to sit in on their meeting with their financial adviser, taking time off work to take mum for routine check ups at the hospital and doctors, to take dad to his podiatry and memory clinic appointments sorting out the LPA, getting their car MOT'd, helping mum keep up with all the finances (since dad used to deal with everything) so seeing my brother having a whale of a time just really gets to me.
Sorry. Rant over
As I've posted before, it's my dad with VD, I'd say mid stage but who really knows? My mum acts as his carer but she just sees herself as his wife. Recently though (early Dec) my mum's health hasn't been great and she has had mobility issues preventing her from getting out of the house.
On top of all the regular jobs I've slowly inherited, I've also been making daily house calls, doing their shopping, cooking their evening meals. I'm their daughter, I live 10 mins away. Of course I would do this for them.
As you will all relate, most days feel like Ground Hog Day.
My brother lives 400 odd miles away - so I know there's not a lot he can do. Until recently I have kept him up to date with Mum and Dad's situation, and I find it hard to take when he makes 'suggestions of what I should do!!!' Although since my life has been taken over by the extra stuff I'm helping with, I've not had time to drop him a quick text.... and then it dawned on me he hasn't been in touch with me or telephoned our parents to see how they are. I work fulltime, have 3 kids and a hubby who is very supported. But I have found myself becoming increasingly resentful of him getting on with his life. I've deactivated my Facebook account as I couldn't bear seeing photos of his life and the fact that he has the luxury of a social life especially over the Xmas period and enjoying a NY break !!!
I know that reading this back it probably makes me sound very childish. But it's how I feel. I am taking time off work to sit in on their meeting with their financial adviser, taking time off work to take mum for routine check ups at the hospital and doctors, to take dad to his podiatry and memory clinic appointments sorting out the LPA, getting their car MOT'd, helping mum keep up with all the finances (since dad used to deal with everything) so seeing my brother having a whale of a time just really gets to me.
Sorry. Rant over