My aunt is on her third hospital stay in 4 months, having managed less than 4 weeks in her assessment placement, which was traumatic for everyone, but especially her. Her medical record finally has a diagnosis of dementia (not specified, but likely vascular as per the hospital doctors), but its now her heart that is failing. They are getting things under control, but it's a delicate balancing act to get the medication right, due to side effects, not helped by her 'challenging' and self destructive behaviour predominantly not eating or drinking and exit seeking. I know all this is not new to most people on this forum, and I also am acutely aware that my situation pails into insignificance when I read how some of you are managing under tremendous strain, but I just feel...........like I have a scream in my chest that wont come out. I have never felt so low, so alone, so lost. Seeing how she is, (bear in mind this all started just 5 months ago and the change in her is stratospheric) is beyond heartbreaking, and I simply do not know what to do for her. Conversations are so so difficult, she berates me yet in the next breath cries for me to stay with her 24/7. I question every decision I make over what to do for her, and there are times when all I want to do is cry. There is only me, so I am trying to get through this maze as best I can. I don't know what I am looking for from this post, I suppose just an opportunity to get things on 'paper' to help free some brain space for the next thing I have to do???
Sending love to everyone out there seeking support and fellowship in this poopstorm of a situation, and if you are reading this, thank you for spending the time.
Sending love to everyone out there seeking support and fellowship in this poopstorm of a situation, and if you are reading this, thank you for spending the time.