Thank you so much It’s just I’m feeling inadequate A lot of people on this forum sawn to do so Well without help I can’t remember who it was but one person wrote that it was there duty to look after their partner
Hello Bev
I hope you're doing ok and I read you have broken ribs and a broken hand too which in itself is difficult let alone when caring for someone.
Whoever wrote it was their duty to care for their partner - well it is, but ultimately it may not be at home.
Every single one of us is in a unique situation. Every single person with dementia is different from the next one.
Looking for the best care is all we can do whether it's at home or in a care of nursing home.
If I had an upstairs shower room it might have been a bit easier. But we don't so all personal care became a nightmare.
If he had not been mobile and bed bound it might have been easier too but he isn't. Instead he has systematically destroyed every room upstairs over time (he couldn't go downstairs due to falls risk.)
I love my husband very much and we have been together for 40 years but he is now in a nursing home for the past 2 weeks where they can care for him way better than I could even with 4x daily carers.
I'm not suggesting you are at that stage as it sounds like you need physical recovery after broken bones, my goodness you poor woman.
But if and when it comes to it, don't be scared or guilt tripped.
People who can keep their life partners at home just have a different partner from mine, that's all I can say.
Good luck Bev x