Hi, its my first time writing on here, although I have visited the forum numerous times. My dear 83 yr old mum has dementia and is now in an EMI home. I was her carer until June this year when she broke her hip. She spent 7 weeks in hospital after a partial hip replacement. While she was in the hospital she wouldnt co-operate with the physios and would scream and shout when anyone went near her. After a few weeks the physios stopped coming to see her.
Her dementia symptoms got a lot worse while she was in hospital and it was decided that she needed to go into an EMI home, which is where she is now. She is so unhappy!!!! Every time I visit she says she wants to go to her own house. She cries, and that is something she hasnt done for a long time. For the past year or so, she seemed to be very detached from emotion, even though she would be having awful delusions. Some of the things that she said was happening around her were were quite frightening, but she was quite matter of fact about it.
When I go and visit her she is sat in the lounge with some of the other residents, all of them in their own little worlds. It breaks my heart to see her there.
I know that she needs the 24hr care, and that I couldnt cope with her needs any more. Apparently she gets very aggressive with the carers/nurses when they dress/wash her.
My mum was also my best friend. Her house was at the bottom of my garden and apart from holidays we had seen each other everyday for the past 30 years. To see her spending the rest of her days like this is so distressing to me. Each time I visit I think it will get a little easier, but it doesnt, in fact it seems to get worse.
I now have the horrible task of clearing her house, because its obvious she wont be returning. I go over most days to clear things out,I feel so bad doing this, it is as if she has died.
Thanks for taking the time to read, I know a lot of you here are feeling exactly the same.
Her dementia symptoms got a lot worse while she was in hospital and it was decided that she needed to go into an EMI home, which is where she is now. She is so unhappy!!!! Every time I visit she says she wants to go to her own house. She cries, and that is something she hasnt done for a long time. For the past year or so, she seemed to be very detached from emotion, even though she would be having awful delusions. Some of the things that she said was happening around her were were quite frightening, but she was quite matter of fact about it.
When I go and visit her she is sat in the lounge with some of the other residents, all of them in their own little worlds. It breaks my heart to see her there.
I know that she needs the 24hr care, and that I couldnt cope with her needs any more. Apparently she gets very aggressive with the carers/nurses when they dress/wash her.
My mum was also my best friend. Her house was at the bottom of my garden and apart from holidays we had seen each other everyday for the past 30 years. To see her spending the rest of her days like this is so distressing to me. Each time I visit I think it will get a little easier, but it doesnt, in fact it seems to get worse.
I now have the horrible task of clearing her house, because its obvious she wont be returning. I go over most days to clear things out,I feel so bad doing this, it is as if she has died.
Thanks for taking the time to read, I know a lot of you here are feeling exactly the same.