New to this sort of thing, but here goes. Caring for Mum who has vascular dementia and alzheimers ( dad died 3 1\2 years ago). Has anyone else had experience of fear and anxiety to the extent of not having the heating on in case it sets fire to curtains etc, flashing lights from smoke alarm/burglar alarm. Mum doesn't cook at all, I do it all for her. She is frightened, scared and feels so alone. The last month has been so bad for her and me. I have had her at my house for a few days but am so terrified she will fall down the stairs, and she just keeps saying take me home. When she gets home she gets hysterical, we had a crisis last week which is another story but it resulted in an ambulance to hospital... I took the decision to put her in respite for her own safety. I don't like it and feel so dreadful but it is impossible for me to be with Mum 24 hours a day. Does the fear of being alone and fear of fire get better or is this the way it will be now.