It's been a relatively peaceful day today but not completely without incident
My husband did very well generally. We managed the supermarket shopping without any confusion at the checkout and loaded up the car before stopping off on the way home to fetch the papers.
Once back in the warm my husband was content to read the papers and watch sport on the telly while I got on and did the normal Saturday bits and pieces.
All very relaxed and enjoyable. Then this evening it became evident that my husband had forgotten quite what place he played in the family - and even if we were a family.
There was no anxiety with it, he just couldn't quite place how he fitted in. He was relaxed and happy as he asked questions and I explained who I was, who his children were, how we had come to be living where we live now.
I wasn't even the slightest bit upset as I did the explaining. I was just happy that he looked accepting of the situation and content with the responses.
It isn't the first time he has momentarily forgotten who I am, I suppose the difference is that in the past, on the couple of occasions when it has happened, it has been when he has been ill and suffering a UTI - not like today when he was well in himself and coping very well.
I mentioned it to my son when we were washing up this evening and he told me that a few days ago, when he'd been out for a walk with his father, he had asked him part-way through if he was his 'friend'.
My son had simply said yes, not realising that this was a sign of not being recognised as a son - but more a case of thinking 'yes of course we are friends, why wouldn't we be?' However, by putting that incident together with what happened earlier today, it seems like we are at the point where my husband's understanding of his place in the family dynamics is becoming weakened - though only in fleeting moments.
I don't feel upset, nor does my son. All the while my husband is happy and feeling secure I don't really mind if he knows I'm his wife or not.
To be honest I feel I am more of a mother to him than a wife anyway - and above all that we are firm friends. I am content with that, I just hope he always recognises me as someone who loves him and who he is safe with
My husband did very well generally. We managed the supermarket shopping without any confusion at the checkout and loaded up the car before stopping off on the way home to fetch the papers.
Once back in the warm my husband was content to read the papers and watch sport on the telly while I got on and did the normal Saturday bits and pieces.
All very relaxed and enjoyable. Then this evening it became evident that my husband had forgotten quite what place he played in the family - and even if we were a family.
There was no anxiety with it, he just couldn't quite place how he fitted in. He was relaxed and happy as he asked questions and I explained who I was, who his children were, how we had come to be living where we live now.
I wasn't even the slightest bit upset as I did the explaining. I was just happy that he looked accepting of the situation and content with the responses.
It isn't the first time he has momentarily forgotten who I am, I suppose the difference is that in the past, on the couple of occasions when it has happened, it has been when he has been ill and suffering a UTI - not like today when he was well in himself and coping very well.
I mentioned it to my son when we were washing up this evening and he told me that a few days ago, when he'd been out for a walk with his father, he had asked him part-way through if he was his 'friend'.
My son had simply said yes, not realising that this was a sign of not being recognised as a son - but more a case of thinking 'yes of course we are friends, why wouldn't we be?' However, by putting that incident together with what happened earlier today, it seems like we are at the point where my husband's understanding of his place in the family dynamics is becoming weakened - though only in fleeting moments.
I don't feel upset, nor does my son. All the while my husband is happy and feeling secure I don't really mind if he knows I'm his wife or not.
To be honest I feel I am more of a mother to him than a wife anyway - and above all that we are firm friends. I am content with that, I just hope he always recognises me as someone who loves him and who he is safe with