Hi, just need a rant and any advice available please. Mums 87, diagnosed Alzheimer's last October. All sorts of ups and downs, memory, physical, confusion, sadness, lack of motivation etc, coping not bad so far. Main problem is family. 4 sisters - all older than me, 2 live hour or so away and have own health issues, but are as supportive as they are able, to myself and mum. Other sister lives same distance as me, is retired and does help mum in her own way. problem is she is a pessimistic control freak - since being a child she was called Moangy Mo! Recently been ' helping ' mum sort bills etc - all good, however mum doesnt do things how Mo, ( and husband) think they should be done - so they moan and tell her off _ have always done it to us all but now mum getting more vulnerable cant cope and often in tears. Recently mum lnet me money -they went mad and took her deboit card off her - too help her safeguard herself and be able to sort all bills etc , make life easier for her. Give mum£80 per week to pay for cleaner( Mo herslef!), shopping, days out etc - mum always been independant so still likes to do as much as poss. They say she doesnt need more as they will look after her! took mum for 2 new pairs glasses Wednesday - bargain at £50. Had text Mo earlier to ssay what doing and ask to leave mum more money - she ignored me, and only gave her ten extra - also for mothers union trip to Sandringham, and full week. Cost of glasses, trip to Sandringahm and little bit of shopping mum spent up, so rang Mo for more of her own money - got told off - 'what on earth have you spent £90 on?@!!!! mum rang me in tears - calmed her down and left it as in process of sorting Power of attorney - nephew to oversee finances with mo - he actually listens to mum. hour later mum rang - sounding worried - Mo there wanted a word - result told me off for letting mum spend £50, she wanted to know how much first, mum was so upset by her torrent she got confused and forgot everything - Mo said it proves she doesnt know what she doing !!!!!!! She ranted on how mum had more than enough for the week -I reminded Sandringham - not relevant. I ended up getting angry at her saying 'at least i didnt spend £74 just on lenses, as she had few wks earleir - if saving mum £ so important i did better job - she put phone down on me. breaking my heart she doesnt care about upsetting mum - even if go legal and blok her acces to financial affairs etc - she will still bully mum when she sees her - dont know how to stop that. Sorry to moan - getting to end of tether - just want to look after mum and make sure she has the best times poss while she still cogniscent to know - getting less and less. Any ideas? thanks, Judith. x