My Mother is in the early stages of Alzhiemer’s. She has a carer once a day for an hour in the mornings and this works well.
I had asked the carer to help with the online shopping list and meal planning. I was under the impression that my Mother was able to cook (mostly) healthy evening meals.
The memory nurse has told me that she would recommend another Carer comes in to make sure my Mother eats a healthy meal in the evenings. The problem is that my Mother wouldn’t give me Power of Attorney several years ago and I am waiting for deputyship (final papers have been submitted). I don’t feel comfortable going down the best interest route again to get another Carer as I don’t know much about my Mother’s finances. The Carer’s costs can be up to £1000 a month as the care company charge double on bank holidays.
Also my Mother lives with a family member who is unable to help and I don’t have a good relationship with him. He wouldn’t want another Carer in as it would disrupt his routine. I’ve got to the point where I can no longer deal with him.
I am going to speak to the Carer and see what she thinks. I know it sounds selfish but all this stress is affecting my anxiety and ability to sleep.
Any suggestions?
I had asked the carer to help with the online shopping list and meal planning. I was under the impression that my Mother was able to cook (mostly) healthy evening meals.
The memory nurse has told me that she would recommend another Carer comes in to make sure my Mother eats a healthy meal in the evenings. The problem is that my Mother wouldn’t give me Power of Attorney several years ago and I am waiting for deputyship (final papers have been submitted). I don’t feel comfortable going down the best interest route again to get another Carer as I don’t know much about my Mother’s finances. The Carer’s costs can be up to £1000 a month as the care company charge double on bank holidays.
Also my Mother lives with a family member who is unable to help and I don’t have a good relationship with him. He wouldn’t want another Carer in as it would disrupt his routine. I’ve got to the point where I can no longer deal with him.
I am going to speak to the Carer and see what she thinks. I know it sounds selfish but all this stress is affecting my anxiety and ability to sleep.
Any suggestions?