As I understand it, with financial POAs the attorney can act - alongside the donor - before the donor has lost capacity if the POA provides for this.
The general rule is that an attorney can't benefit from the POA but I assume that if the donor still has capacity s/he can as it's the donor who is making the decision.
Your BIL has mentioned gifts. Has your wife asked him outright how much the gifts were for and when they were made? I have to say that giving huge sums to one child and nothing at all to the other, in the absence of some compelling reason, seems very unfair and your BIL acted in a very shady way in accepting them, particularly without telling your wife. But that's greed for you, and lack of decency and moral scruples. Presumably, your wife is going to have nothing more to do with him.
Why do you think that your wife wasn't appointed as an attorney and an executor? It's a bit unusual just appointing one of each if there is more than one child unless the other child is unreliable in some way or the donor and the child are not on good terms. Certainly, I think that most solicitors would advise more than one of each but perhaps this POA and this will were drawn up without the involvement of solicitors.
The general rule is that an attorney can't benefit from the POA but I assume that if the donor still has capacity s/he can as it's the donor who is making the decision.
Your BIL has mentioned gifts. Has your wife asked him outright how much the gifts were for and when they were made? I have to say that giving huge sums to one child and nothing at all to the other, in the absence of some compelling reason, seems very unfair and your BIL acted in a very shady way in accepting them, particularly without telling your wife. But that's greed for you, and lack of decency and moral scruples. Presumably, your wife is going to have nothing more to do with him.
Why do you think that your wife wasn't appointed as an attorney and an executor? It's a bit unusual just appointing one of each if there is more than one child unless the other child is unreliable in some way or the donor and the child are not on good terms. Certainly, I think that most solicitors would advise more than one of each but perhaps this POA and this will were drawn up without the involvement of solicitors.
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