Good morning,
@Monkton, I am so sorry to read of your recent loss and pain. I was widowed nearly ten years ago, and that raw, almost physical, pain does pass. At least, maybe it does, or maybe you learn to live with it. I felt it was a little easier for me as I still had two of my children in school, and I had to resume work.
My present husband (married for six years) moved into supported living four weeks ago, and I’m hit by grief again. I somehow thought it might be easier this time round. I know I still have him, but it’s not the man I married. In short, I think I am in for that raw pain again when I lose him.
It helped me to be with other people. It helped to have to do something that required my (almost) full attention. And it really helped that I had to hold things together for two teenagers. I hope there is something you can take from my experience and use. But for you, it is very early days. I returned to work (part time) six weeks after he died. I found I got tired very quickly, grieving is exhausting, and I think it was also the aftermath of providing full time care. So, don’t expect too much of yourself.
I seem to remember we watched a lot of TV in those early days. Just wrapped up in blankets and watched films. I’m so pleased for you that you have family around. And we are all here for you, when you want some ‘company’.