The day my husband took the memory test the GP told him not to drive, at least until he'd seen the consultant and had a diagnosis. I sent his licence to the DVLA without his knowledge as his driving had become very erratic so it was a relief. That was two years ago and he seems not to mind so much now. I've also since got a different car which he wouldn't be able to work out how to drive. It might all sound harsh but I couldn't bear the thought of him killing or injuring someone. A friend's father in law who has dementia had a driving assessment and passed, which horrified my friend who says his driving is awful.
My as yet undiagnosed 84 yr old OH has not driven for at least 12 months. He failed to stop at a roundabout and I suggested he should stop driving until he had a driving assessment and we have just never got around to arranging it.
When his license renewal letter from DVLA came about 2 months ago he was going to return it without ticking any of the health issue boxes ie 'serious memory and confusion'
When I told him he had to tick that one, he said his memory issues were not 'serious' so it didn't apply.
I told him that if he did send it unticked I would have to contact the DVLA and tell them that he had made a false declaration.
He later told me that 'the little fella' had been mean to him and was going to dob him in to the DVLA!
We had many discussions about it and I emphasised as tactfully as I could 'danger to life' not just his life but other people's
Luckily there was also an article in the paper one weekend about elderly drivers having to stop driving which he took on board.
So DVLA letter has been sent correctly filled in and he is awaiting the medical information form they will send for mire info.
He has resigned himself to not getting his license back and says he feels lost, angry and resentful.
I do feel very sorry for his loss of freedom and it is so sad to see his decline from such a super capable person to someone who now can't perform simple tasks and gets lost in the house along with all the other issues.
When I did the ironing last night, he said later that 'the little fella' ironed his shirt really well!