diagnosed with alzheimers wife has left me

Discussion in 'I have dementia' started by jock01, Nov 26, 2015.

  1. jock01

    jock01 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2015
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    #1 jock01, Nov 26, 2015
    Last edited: Nov 26, 2015
    my wife has left me and I dont know what to do. I have nowhere to turn.


    I am using my wifes login details.....Sorry if confused.
     
  2. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

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  3. jock01

    jock01 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2015
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    #3 jock01, Nov 26, 2015
    Last edited: Nov 26, 2015
    am scared and and confused just dont want to talk to anybody but I dont want to be alone either.

    I am sorry I am using my wifes login details did not know what way to use this computer.
     
  4. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
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    Hi jocko1
    (thanks for the explanation - I was a bit muddled, so not sure how to reply)

    I won't write that I know how you feel etc - I can't imagine
    But I send you much sympathy

    If it helps, keep posting here - so pleased you did think to write to us all, there's so much support here

    Please do, at some point, go to see your GP, just to keep them in the loop.

    Sometimes when I am troubled and want 'company' but not to talk, I just go for a wander around town and have a lunch - just being around people 'helps', and no-one knows I'm upset so there are no 'kind' comments to deal with.

    And, though I'm not a believer, I find churches are very calming places to be - something about the history and stability ...

    Best wishes
     
  5. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    Hi Jocko,

    I am so sorry to hear of your situation. I'm afraid I don't have any words of advice, but I didn't want to 'read and run' (read your message and not reply).

    I can't imagine how you are feeling at the moment, but I do understand how upset and confused you might feel. I do hope you are able to look after yourself physically. Sending you much love.
     
  6. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

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    Hi and welcome to Talking Point.

    Please talk to us, we can help in so many ways. There is a mountain of support and advice here so ask your questions, tell us what concerns you and from all the experience we have we can help by giving advice when we can and pointing you in the right direction to get the help you may need.

    Take care
     
  7. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

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    #7 Grannie G, Nov 26, 2015
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    Please phone the Helpline jock01. It is just what they are there for. There are people who can put you in reach of local help.

    Please keep in contact.
     
  8. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
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    I'm so sorry to hear this, Jock01. Please do keep posting as you can speak here anonymously and get support without having to reveal everything. Members here are very kind and if all you want is someone to listen, then that's what we'll do.
     
  9. Countryboy

    Countryboy Registered User

    Mar 17, 2005
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    Hi jock01 reading your thread I take it you have dementia , it’s common knowledge that when a person get diagnosed with dementia friend desert them over time I have been through , but my close family and children and a few close friends don’t see my dementia as a problem. hopefully this is only short term with the Wife

    not much help to you realy
     
  10. jock01

    jock01 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2015
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    Than you all, you have really all helped. Just to have any interaction is wonderfull.

    No chance for wife coming back she I just found out has been seeing some one else for quite some time. Even before diagnosis. My fault because I have not been myself at all confused all the time and not understanding why. I just feel like i have been woken up from a ddep sleeep and all is disorientated.,
     
  11. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
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    Jock so sorry to hear your news and thinking of you.
    Just bumping this up with Izzie's message to you - it might be useful for you as you may need some extra help in the coming days. This is the Helpline number from Izzie

    https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/site/s...382.1429178343

    Here is the number-
    0300 222 1122
     
  12. J D M

    J D M Registered User

    Nov 26, 2015
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    Scotland
    not using Jock01 now got my own login name. New name J D M.

    Thanks again for all help. I will get in touch with some one now. Before I found you all I just wanted to end it all. You have given me hope.
     
  13. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
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    Well done JDM, good for you, keep going, one day at a time and come on for support or a chat whenever you need to xx
     
  14. J D M

    J D M Registered User

    Nov 26, 2015
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    Thank you Fizzie. for your kind thoughts..You all will never know just how much this has helped. I cant put into words the gratitude I am feeling. X
     
  15. nitram

    nitram Registered User

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    From previous posts under Jock01 I think J D M may be in Scotland, if so does the AS helpline apply, they may not be able to advise on local facilities.
     
  16. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

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    #16 Izzy, Nov 26, 2015
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  17. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
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    Keep posting :)
     
  18. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

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    Well done jdm keep posting there are a lot of lovely people on here to help and support you xx
     
  19. J D M

    J D M Registered User

    Nov 26, 2015
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    Scotland
    Thanks again all for your support. Some one from social work dept on there way to talk to me. xxx
     
  20. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
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    That's good. I hope it goes well.
     

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