My Mother-in-Law is in the middle to later stages of vascular dementia. The decline is both rapid and glacial. Over the weekend she has used a knife only to eat her lunch (she insists on having meals with a knife and fork). She has tipped a cup of tea over herself and needed to change all her clothes. She has become increasingly unstable while walking (but hasn't fallen). She has walking aids but refuses to use them. She is incontinent but often goes upstairs and takes her incontinence pads off. She is a strong willed person and really believes there is nothing wrong with her. I think that's part of the reason why she reject all the walking aids. Is there any advice of aids that are available that dont look like aids. Better cups for less spillages. Advice over getting her to eat more. I have tried finger food and she's not really keen.