I would echo Padraig's question - Why pick on cancer?
I have returned to this thread a number of times as it has troubled me to read so much in the vein that cancer would be a more favourable "option" than AD/Dementia.
My husband was diagnosed CLL (leukaemia) in 1999. Over the years he has had many complications requiring difficult treatments. Some of those treatments had devastating side effects with the result that he became housebound (literally housebound), bones in spine crumbled, my tall husband lost height, became bent, spine twisted, mobility very poor, constant pain and all the time I have been caring for him singlehanded. This caring role continued even when in 2006 I was diagnosed breast cancer - had operations, chemo, etc and somehow carried on. We have not had/do not have any cancer related support.
I have come across a quote: "there are more people living with cancer than dying of cancer". People do die unfortunately, but living with cancer is not easy.
I can assure you that friends and relatives do not necessarily rally round being supportive in relation to cancer - if anyone has such support they are fortunate indeed whatever they are dealing with.
In addition to the above, Vascular dementia continues to rob me of more and more of what made my husband the person he used to be
Padraig - It's good that you have those rich sweet memories of your dear wife but so sorry about your teenage daughter, what a tragedy and what a loss xx
I have returned to this thread a number of times as it has troubled me to read so much in the vein that cancer would be a more favourable "option" than AD/Dementia.
My husband was diagnosed CLL (leukaemia) in 1999. Over the years he has had many complications requiring difficult treatments. Some of those treatments had devastating side effects with the result that he became housebound (literally housebound), bones in spine crumbled, my tall husband lost height, became bent, spine twisted, mobility very poor, constant pain and all the time I have been caring for him singlehanded. This caring role continued even when in 2006 I was diagnosed breast cancer - had operations, chemo, etc and somehow carried on. We have not had/do not have any cancer related support.
I have come across a quote: "there are more people living with cancer than dying of cancer". People do die unfortunately, but living with cancer is not easy.
I can assure you that friends and relatives do not necessarily rally round being supportive in relation to cancer - if anyone has such support they are fortunate indeed whatever they are dealing with.
In addition to the above, Vascular dementia continues to rob me of more and more of what made my husband the person he used to be
Padraig - It's good that you have those rich sweet memories of your dear wife but so sorry about your teenage daughter, what a tragedy and what a loss xx
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