I'm sorry you had such a bad visit today Dutchman. I sincerely hope that your next one is better.
I had an upsetting incident in my dad's carehome where one of the residents made her opinion of my dad known very forcibly. It only happened once though as the staff tended to keep her away after that. Hopefully the staff at your wife's home will do the same for you.
The feeling of abandonment is strong. The Admiral nurse confirms that the home is the correct place for my wife but when I go in to see her she looks so unhappy and wonders why’s she’s there. She’s unable to explain her feeling, the words just don’t come out so it’s so frustrating for her.
In staying home today, at least the awful feeling I’m feeling now is not added to by the stress I feel when I sit there in the home. Going to the doctors later for some advice about and I’m going to talk to the home about my wife’s various health issues. She’s been there 3 weeks now and everyone says it’s still early days but for me it’s one day of agony after another.
The staff seem stretched all the time. Its a dementia home but I do wonder what skills they do have. I wonder sometimes if the home might give up on my wife and ask me to consider an alternative. they try their best with food and drink but my wife is always reluctant. What alternative? There’s no perfect solution unless you are very rich and can give your relative everything they and you desire.