If I left my coat my wife would put it on in a flash. It is difficult to know what she thinks about my whereabouts when I am not there but she often greets me with a smile and an easily deflected question. Today she mainly slept whilst I was there. She seemed at peace and not worried when I kissed her cheek and left after 45 minutes. The visit was not wasted as it allowed me to sit with 2 of the staff, answering quiz questions with other residents, and also talking about my wife and how they look after her. It was good to get to know a little about them as individuals not just 'carers'. The time we spent in friendly conversation will I am sure benefit my wife too. I was heartened to hear how well they know her ways and how to deal with them.