Hi @CAL Y . it all makes the blood boil doesn’t it!@canary . It makes me so angry when I hear about people like your brother.
He couldn’t cope ? He was frightened?
How does he think you were feeling.
One day he might have to deal with something awful happening to someone even closer or even to himself.
It just makes me want to say to him “Grow up and grow a pair.??
Sad to say that unless people go through this and experience what we experience then they’ve no idea. I would hate for any of my family to experience this. But, what saddens me is the shallowness of the family dynamic in the way they become so insular and closed up. The way children can dictate the timetable and parents give in to keep the peace.
So what if they come here and remain in the bedroom all weekend while dad visits nanny! So much is given up for the sake of children's feelings. So, as I said earlier, I’d rather they come because they want than they have to. But that’s a big expectation and it’s not worth my energy to spend time fretting over this.