Hi My mom has had Dementia for 2 years she is also a left leg amputee. My father has cared for her for 23 years since loosing her leg until he couldn't cope any longer, partly feeling guilty has she lost her leg in a motorbike accident. He stopped talking, eating and refused help until he ended up in hospital. At this stage I had to get mom in to care after living with her for a week, I realised why my dad had got so depressed. When he came out of hospital he joined mom in the care home as he wanted to be with her even thou he doesn't need a care home does not want to go back home due to the bad memories. My dad has said to sell everything and rent the bungalow out but my mom keeps saying she wants to go back to the bungalow. She doesn't realise dad cannot cope with her, believing she can do everything herself. I feel guilty as the only child and have put off getting rid of my parents belonging that they have gathered together for 60 years. How do I overcome upsetting my mom, do I tell her or not? I have a fantastic mom and dad. At the moment it seems to be consuming every ounce of energy and time deciding if to be blunt with my mom and tell her what is happening. All I seem to do with my wife is talk about the situation.