My youngest child (daughter 28) just got engaged. They will marry in mid July. I am struggling with how to (or not) handle my mom and the wedding.
Obviously, my mom can't handle all the showers, rehearsal, etc. My daughter began to cry when I told her we probably needed to exclude mom from everything. Oh the agony!!!!
If we don't include her, Mom has enough cognitive ability to figure out she wasn't invited to the wedding, but not enough to know why - if that makes sense. A week later she probably wouldn't remember, but might. I'm even debating whether or not to tell her that her granddaughter is engaged. Just don't know what to do. Mom usually asks about her and for some reason remembers her boyfriend's name. (go figure)
If I did try to have her at the wedding, I would have to hire a private duty nurse to transport her to and from the wedding ceremony and to "handle" her throughout the service. I just don't think I will be able to focus on my daughter if my mom is there. That's horrible to admit/say/whatever, but that's the way I feel.
Have any of you had a similar situation and if so, how in the world did you handle it???
Thanks,
Mot
Obviously, my mom can't handle all the showers, rehearsal, etc. My daughter began to cry when I told her we probably needed to exclude mom from everything. Oh the agony!!!!
If we don't include her, Mom has enough cognitive ability to figure out she wasn't invited to the wedding, but not enough to know why - if that makes sense. A week later she probably wouldn't remember, but might. I'm even debating whether or not to tell her that her granddaughter is engaged. Just don't know what to do. Mom usually asks about her and for some reason remembers her boyfriend's name. (go figure)
If I did try to have her at the wedding, I would have to hire a private duty nurse to transport her to and from the wedding ceremony and to "handle" her throughout the service. I just don't think I will be able to focus on my daughter if my mom is there. That's horrible to admit/say/whatever, but that's the way I feel.
Have any of you had a similar situation and if so, how in the world did you handle it???
Thanks,
Mot