Hello, I am currently based in Berlin and my parents live in the UK. My Mum has been my Dads amazing carer for years and we have reached the point that Mum that her health is in jeopardy, and Dad needs extra care in a home. This last 2 weeks he has been trying a new nursing home. Unfortunately due to illness he has now had to go to hospital. I am looking for some advice around visiting him in hospital.
Slight context to the story, I am in Berlin, I am currently going through breast cancer treatment so can't fly. My Mum after not being able to leave her town for years managed to come and visit me for the first time going through treatment as my Dad was in the home. Now OF COURSE we will want to immediately be with him, however it's a slightly more complex scenario and we are worried because of the confusion and stress if we go in it will put his healing back a lot. Mum desperately needs rest, she's so exhausted, my Dad is refusing to eat, the dementia is pretty advanced so to speak and he's being aggressive/not sure where he is. Will seeing someone he knows make things more challenging for his healing? He's just reaching the stage of family in moments now appearing to be unrecognisable.
Apologies for the long message, I just wondered on some advice who know's a little more. We don't want to slow the process down of him getting back to the home or causing more confusion and stress I appreciate this may sound cold, it really isn't, we just want his safety to be paramount. Thanks for any advice in advance!
Slight context to the story, I am in Berlin, I am currently going through breast cancer treatment so can't fly. My Mum after not being able to leave her town for years managed to come and visit me for the first time going through treatment as my Dad was in the home. Now OF COURSE we will want to immediately be with him, however it's a slightly more complex scenario and we are worried because of the confusion and stress if we go in it will put his healing back a lot. Mum desperately needs rest, she's so exhausted, my Dad is refusing to eat, the dementia is pretty advanced so to speak and he's being aggressive/not sure where he is. Will seeing someone he knows make things more challenging for his healing? He's just reaching the stage of family in moments now appearing to be unrecognisable.
Apologies for the long message, I just wondered on some advice who know's a little more. We don't want to slow the process down of him getting back to the home or causing more confusion and stress I appreciate this may sound cold, it really isn't, we just want his safety to be paramount. Thanks for any advice in advance!