Hello everyone,I have only posted on this site once in the past but have found a lot of comfort from reading many of the posts. However, this week has been the worst of my life and I thought maybe those of you that have gone through this could help.
My mum was diagnosed in November but has probably had AD for about 2 years. About 10 days ago, she rapidly deteriorated to the extent that she started to fall. Her partner (aged 82) was struggling to cope and things were rapidly getting out of control. I live 100 miles away and so after a lot of thought found a nursing home near to me for her. There are many reasons I wont bore you with as to the location.
I went down and spent 2 days with them which were the most distressing days as she was so disorientated even in her own house, and I brought her back up here yesterday. I feel so guilty even though I know that it was the only feasible option as she was obviously unsafe at home. I cant stop crying and for a control freak like me that is very unsettling! She was a bit confused yesterday but today seems quiet, calm and although confused says she can see that she is in the best place.
Is my emotional reaction common? Did any of you feel like this? The care home is fine - not my first choice but the best one of the ones that could take her at 48 hours notice. I might move her once the one I like has a bed but I will see if she settles. I have been a nurse for 26 years and seen so many other people who are like her but nothing has prepared me for seeing her in a care home. She just looks so sad and pathetic. I am sure she wont last long and if that is the case I am sure it will be my fault for moving her there but it was either that or let them struggle on until she really hurt herself falling over.
Any suggestions as to how I deal with this gratefully received.
Many thanks
Dee
My mum was diagnosed in November but has probably had AD for about 2 years. About 10 days ago, she rapidly deteriorated to the extent that she started to fall. Her partner (aged 82) was struggling to cope and things were rapidly getting out of control. I live 100 miles away and so after a lot of thought found a nursing home near to me for her. There are many reasons I wont bore you with as to the location.
I went down and spent 2 days with them which were the most distressing days as she was so disorientated even in her own house, and I brought her back up here yesterday. I feel so guilty even though I know that it was the only feasible option as she was obviously unsafe at home. I cant stop crying and for a control freak like me that is very unsettling! She was a bit confused yesterday but today seems quiet, calm and although confused says she can see that she is in the best place.
Is my emotional reaction common? Did any of you feel like this? The care home is fine - not my first choice but the best one of the ones that could take her at 48 hours notice. I might move her once the one I like has a bed but I will see if she settles. I have been a nurse for 26 years and seen so many other people who are like her but nothing has prepared me for seeing her in a care home. She just looks so sad and pathetic. I am sure she wont last long and if that is the case I am sure it will be my fault for moving her there but it was either that or let them struggle on until she really hurt herself falling over.
Any suggestions as to how I deal with this gratefully received.
Many thanks
Dee