How to cope with " lies"
My mother ( who has mixed dementia) still lives " independently" This independent living involves myself, my partner & son doing pretty much everything for her ; shopping, appointments, transport, finance and maintaining the house & garden.
My mother has been " confabulation/filling in the memory gaps" and is the queen of
" hostess/showtime" behaviour, so I guess that anyone who doesn't know her well and doesn't spend much time with her might be unaware what is going on with her ?
So far her " confabulation" has been just harmless nonsense.
But things have escalated and we have been told that at her weekly village pensioners craft club she has been saying some pretty outrageous and hugely inaccurate things about us - basically that none of her family do a single thing for her.
It is incredibly hurtful and couldn't be further from the truth, we do pretty much everything for her !
So far we have kept my mother's diagnosis within the family, but I am wondering if now I should tell those in her small social circle, so that people would know that she has memory issues ?
My mother ( who has mixed dementia) still lives " independently" This independent living involves myself, my partner & son doing pretty much everything for her ; shopping, appointments, transport, finance and maintaining the house & garden.
My mother has been " confabulation/filling in the memory gaps" and is the queen of
" hostess/showtime" behaviour, so I guess that anyone who doesn't know her well and doesn't spend much time with her might be unaware what is going on with her ?
So far her " confabulation" has been just harmless nonsense.
But things have escalated and we have been told that at her weekly village pensioners craft club she has been saying some pretty outrageous and hugely inaccurate things about us - basically that none of her family do a single thing for her.
It is incredibly hurtful and couldn't be further from the truth, we do pretty much everything for her !
So far we have kept my mother's diagnosis within the family, but I am wondering if now I should tell those in her small social circle, so that people would know that she has memory issues ?