This is my first post here so please bear with me if it is a little long. I am concerned about my 86yr old Mother In Law. Over recent years here memory has been getting worse - 12 months ago we got a referral to memory assessment clinic - after the first 10 mins I had to interject with the consultant as it was clear that m-in-l thought she was there for a cancer check up (she had lung cancer - thankfully fully cleared now) and didn't realise it was not for that. Anyway - upshot is she did very well on the tests and got around 90% and we were told to keep eye on things and be seen again in 12 months - that appt is now in a few weeks.
Over the last year memory issues have got worse and more so in the last few weeks. One big example is this weekend we are taking her to visit her other son in his new house. This has been arranged for a while and I have spoken with her every other day this week and we've talked about the visit. I spoke with her yesterday morning to confirm the details and then 2 hours later got a message from her saying did we have plans at some point to go and visit her other son - as she didn't know when it was. Also had a call from friend of hers very concerned for her memory. M-in-L sees this friend most Sundays and she had called her Friday am to check if they had made arrangements for the weekend, then again on Saturday morning - even though it turns out it was in her diary.
Day to day M-in-L copes reasonably well living alone (she has done so for the last 16 years since her husband died) and due to distance we only get to see her once a week, but we are getting more concerned and not sure what to do for the best. She still drives but only to 3 places which are places she has been for many many years - but do worry that if there was a diversion in place or some other issue then she would not cope with this.
We think that she may have vascular dementia as this has been mentioned in the past - but no firm diagnosis.
M-in-L knows her memory is bad but doesn't realise how bad it is. Just wondered if anyone had any advice or suggestions especially with us seeing the consultant in couple weeks. I'm pretty sure she will do well on the test again and of course I will give examples of where memory is a big issue.
Thank you.
Kathy
Over the last year memory issues have got worse and more so in the last few weeks. One big example is this weekend we are taking her to visit her other son in his new house. This has been arranged for a while and I have spoken with her every other day this week and we've talked about the visit. I spoke with her yesterday morning to confirm the details and then 2 hours later got a message from her saying did we have plans at some point to go and visit her other son - as she didn't know when it was. Also had a call from friend of hers very concerned for her memory. M-in-L sees this friend most Sundays and she had called her Friday am to check if they had made arrangements for the weekend, then again on Saturday morning - even though it turns out it was in her diary.
Day to day M-in-L copes reasonably well living alone (she has done so for the last 16 years since her husband died) and due to distance we only get to see her once a week, but we are getting more concerned and not sure what to do for the best. She still drives but only to 3 places which are places she has been for many many years - but do worry that if there was a diversion in place or some other issue then she would not cope with this.
We think that she may have vascular dementia as this has been mentioned in the past - but no firm diagnosis.
M-in-L knows her memory is bad but doesn't realise how bad it is. Just wondered if anyone had any advice or suggestions especially with us seeing the consultant in couple weeks. I'm pretty sure she will do well on the test again and of course I will give examples of where memory is a big issue.
Thank you.
Kathy