I am new and I been advised my mum has advanced dementia stage. Mum was left under the care of my brother and had missed her dialysis sessions because she couldn't get up to open the door. I cannot access the property because my mum had signed the property over to my brother recently. He is the next of kin and there has been safeguarding and neglect issues raised with the hospital and social services, which I am handling, however, I feel I am at a dead end because everywhere I go I hear ' but he is the next of kin' I told the hospital she should not be discharged back to the same property, I showed them videos of living conditions and could not do much because ' he is the next of kin' yet again. They have put a safe box and got nurses in, however, what about the times when she does not go to dialysis and when she is at home when the nurses aren't there? I feel I am at a losing end....but don't wish to give up. She is a cardio, renal and dementia patient. She needs love, family and security like we all do. My brother left her to rot, he comes to sleep there but then goes back to his family 8 miles away during the day. That is not acceptable and there is no communication between us 3 siblings. This was the reason I was pushed out because I was keeping a close eye on things and disagreed with what they were doing which was not the best interest of my mum. Mum was stuck in between , so I backed off so she wouldn't have to choose, but I was always worried about her health, whether she was eating properly, bathed, mental wellbeing, all the normal things, but I kept saying to myself she is still with family.
So, brother got what he wanted and left her to rot, it was only until the nurses came to the house 4 weeks ago as there was no show at the dialysis centre, they managed to get into the property finding mum sitting there, not bathed for days, weeks, looking like a 10 year old weight, horrible condition, stone cold food that must have been there for days, I was only informed a week later she was in hospital because medication was not taken and dialysis missed. Should my brother have a POA after this?
I need help to help my mum get her basic human rights back and all that she worked for all her life, by the way she is only 63? She has been exploited by my unemployed father of 4 brother.
Can someone help me please? This needs to be contested, I cannot stress enough how much it has taken over my life, I cannot give up on my mum. Parents give birth to us, feed us, gave us all we are today and then we leave them like a stray?!! Over what ?
I need help. Sorry you had to read this sadness, I do not know who to go to.
Thanks
So, brother got what he wanted and left her to rot, it was only until the nurses came to the house 4 weeks ago as there was no show at the dialysis centre, they managed to get into the property finding mum sitting there, not bathed for days, weeks, looking like a 10 year old weight, horrible condition, stone cold food that must have been there for days, I was only informed a week later she was in hospital because medication was not taken and dialysis missed. Should my brother have a POA after this?
I need help to help my mum get her basic human rights back and all that she worked for all her life, by the way she is only 63? She has been exploited by my unemployed father of 4 brother.
Can someone help me please? This needs to be contested, I cannot stress enough how much it has taken over my life, I cannot give up on my mum. Parents give birth to us, feed us, gave us all we are today and then we leave them like a stray?!! Over what ?
I need help. Sorry you had to read this sadness, I do not know who to go to.
Thanks