My brother and I live with my Mum who is 80 and has advanced Dementia.
she was diagnosed 5 years ago. We are finding it increasingly hard to cope with her behaviour. She needs 24hour care-which we provide but we are both exhausted! She is liable to fall if we do not monitor her all the time. She can be fine and then just decide to do something dangerous-like empty all the drawers in her bureau with things going everywhere. You can’t reason with her. I’ve just had to put her to bed because she was washing herself for the third time today and we couldn’t get her to stop. We lied to her about the time and said it was time for bed. This all sounds crazy and meaningless but we have very little time to ourselves. I can’t cook because she is into something that could be dangerous. We love her to bits and some days are great! We went for a drive to the river and fed the ducks. Some days sh won’t get up-won’t get dressed. We want to keep her at home with us as she is healthy and happy and enjoys being with us. But sometimes!!!
she was diagnosed 5 years ago. We are finding it increasingly hard to cope with her behaviour. She needs 24hour care-which we provide but we are both exhausted! She is liable to fall if we do not monitor her all the time. She can be fine and then just decide to do something dangerous-like empty all the drawers in her bureau with things going everywhere. You can’t reason with her. I’ve just had to put her to bed because she was washing herself for the third time today and we couldn’t get her to stop. We lied to her about the time and said it was time for bed. This all sounds crazy and meaningless but we have very little time to ourselves. I can’t cook because she is into something that could be dangerous. We love her to bits and some days are great! We went for a drive to the river and fed the ducks. Some days sh won’t get up-won’t get dressed. We want to keep her at home with us as she is healthy and happy and enjoys being with us. But sometimes!!!