I live with my mum who has Alzheimer's and needs 24/7 care from me. She wants to stay in her own home as long as is possible and be cared for by me. She gets full Attendance Allowance.
I have been told by the Office of Public Guardian that I should pay food and utilities which I have done despite my mother's long standing wish that I should not have to pay these while I am looking after her. Now my sister/joint POA is making our lives miserable by suggesting I should be paying rent for the roof above my head (I have a room but no privacy as my mum wanders into my room several times during the night requiring help and reassurance). How is it possible to expect me to pay for being available to help my mother? My mother and I think it is ridiculous but my mother may no longer have the capacity to express her previous and current feeling. I have sought an advocate for her. I now have to wait weeks to speak to a lawyer about this. I keep getting conflicting advice. I have no income other than Carer's Allowance so am having to use savings to look after my mother as it is. My mother currently has enough money from her pensions and Attendance Allowance and is actually saving money. She has never charged rent to any family member who has lived with her including her other Power of Attorney.
I have been told by the Office of Public Guardian that I should pay food and utilities which I have done despite my mother's long standing wish that I should not have to pay these while I am looking after her. Now my sister/joint POA is making our lives miserable by suggesting I should be paying rent for the roof above my head (I have a room but no privacy as my mum wanders into my room several times during the night requiring help and reassurance). How is it possible to expect me to pay for being available to help my mother? My mother and I think it is ridiculous but my mother may no longer have the capacity to express her previous and current feeling. I have sought an advocate for her. I now have to wait weeks to speak to a lawyer about this. I keep getting conflicting advice. I have no income other than Carer's Allowance so am having to use savings to look after my mother as it is. My mother currently has enough money from her pensions and Attendance Allowance and is actually saving money. She has never charged rent to any family member who has lived with her including her other Power of Attorney.