Can I ... Should I?
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Morning all,
Sam, I could cry for both of you
As you say, we would not let an animal suffer like this (in fact, we could be prosecuted if we did!) and yet you have to watch your poor mum in pain and afraid. Is the priest due to visit gain soon? I know your mum, found it reassuring last time.
I know how difficult this limboland is and am sending you lots of ((((((hugs))))))
Sam, I could cry for both of you
As you say, we would not let an animal suffer like this (in fact, we could be prosecuted if we did!) and yet you have to watch your poor mum in pain and afraid. Is the priest due to visit gain soon? I know your mum, found it reassuring last time.I know how difficult this limboland is and am sending you lots of ((((((hugs))))))
Morning @canary
I asked the pharmacist & he said the best thing is cooking coconut oil. I’ve found an old fashioned, light very smooth manicure tool & am using that to apply. She’s also developed some dry patches on her face & I'm putting some on there too. Her lip looks so sore, it’s got Cristy bits on it now
She struggled to recognise me this morning & was very polite to the Carer. Definately not recognising her
I asked the pharmacist & he said the best thing is cooking coconut oil. I’ve found an old fashioned, light very smooth manicure tool & am using that to apply. She’s also developed some dry patches on her face & I'm putting some on there too. Her lip looks so sore, it’s got Cristy bits on it now
She struggled to recognise me this morning & was very polite to the Carer. Definately not recognising her
((((Sam))))
Could you ask the DN to give you a supply of mouth swabs, (the lollipop-type sticks), and show you exactly how to use them?
My Mum wouldn't let anyone except my nephew go near her with one at first, he had 'The Knack' and tons of patience and then we realised she had oral thrush. He spent ages carefully cleansing her tongue and after a few hours she actually said "better" with a smile.
Me and my sibs eventually got the knack too.
Just watch out for the thrush.
You must be so very tired now. I hope Pooch has let you hug him and you're managing to eat, we existed on butties, brandy, coffee and monster munch!
I was a bit fanatical and wouldn't let anyone drink or eat in front of Mum and no cooking because of smells that may have made her nauseous. Any hot food brought to the house was eaten outside, in the garden, in February (not recommending this - just my control-freakery!).
More (((hugs))) xxxx
Could you ask the DN to give you a supply of mouth swabs, (the lollipop-type sticks), and show you exactly how to use them?
My Mum wouldn't let anyone except my nephew go near her with one at first, he had 'The Knack' and tons of patience and then we realised she had oral thrush. He spent ages carefully cleansing her tongue and after a few hours she actually said "better" with a smile.
Me and my sibs eventually got the knack too.
Just watch out for the thrush.
You must be so very tired now. I hope Pooch has let you hug him and you're managing to eat, we existed on butties, brandy, coffee and monster munch!
I was a bit fanatical and wouldn't let anyone drink or eat in front of Mum and no cooking because of smells that may have made her nauseous. Any hot food brought to the house was eaten outside, in the garden, in February (not recommending this - just my control-freakery!).
More (((hugs))) xxxx
Hi @Slugsta
The priest has been again & Mum is peaceful again, although she has an awful headache & is refusing to take anything for it
I’m just sitting around waiting for the DN who are supposed to come “in the afternoon”, such a helpful time scale.
Youngest is coming after work, he’s orimised bone crushing hugs Bless his heart
The priest has been again & Mum is peaceful again, although she has an awful headache & is refusing to take anything for it
I’m just sitting around waiting for the DN who are supposed to come “in the afternoon”, such a helpful time scale.
Youngest is coming after work, he’s orimised bone crushing hugs
Bless his heart
I'm so sorry Sam. This is so cruel for you and your mum. Sending strength and more (((hugs)))
Sending some hugs xxxxx
I know it's a cliche but do try and get some rest/sleep, you can't do it all you have to share and sleep when other family are there with your mum
I know it's a cliche but do try and get some rest/sleep, you can't do it all you have to share and sleep when other family are there with your mum
Oh Sam my heart goes out to you, such a difficult time, it must be awful for you to watch your dear Mum in such discomfort. I do hope the DN can sort your Mums lips and mouth.I hope the Priest has been again it's obviously giving your Mum some comfort to see him. Don't forget he's there for you too, if you feel the need to talk as you know am I.
Constantly in my thoughts Sam. Don't know if I can match the lovely Man in his car who stopped to give you a kiss but I'm sending you and your Mum and of course pooch the warmest of (((((((((((hugs))))))))))xxx
Constantly in my thoughts Sam. Don't know if I can match the lovely Man in his car who stopped to give you a kiss but I'm sending you and your Mum and of course pooch the warmest of (((((((((((hugs))))))))))xxx
Hi @Prudence9
I’m waiting on the DN to ask for suggestions. ....
DN now been. Hmm. Don’t think she’s that impressed with the GP
So. Mum is managing 2-3 sips of water. More than that & she vomits. She refuses paracetamol tablets during the day. We’ve requested liquid. They sent soluble I’ve not phoned as I’d have let rip. She phoned. They are changing back to tablets Another call & they eventually got it. Liquid paracetamol being sent over
Onto the next wrong prescription. They are sorting that
Finally get to mums sore lips & now oral thrush. DN phones again & requests satin (?). GP says “can’t it wait till Monday?”
DN. “NO IT CANNOT WAIT TILL MONDAY”
Prescription on it’s way
I love her l
It’s not her usual surgery & she’s finding them “challenging”
I forced down 2 boiled eggs at lunchtime. I’m surviving on coffee, Capt Morgan’s & belVita softbakes. I’m trying to cook when the Carer is here, with the door wide open. Mum smells food & thinks she should eat, but doesn’t want to. I’m trying to stop cooking smells as I feel guilty about the effect on her
DN is going to ask for night sitter from NHS, she said “she’s on her way now” about Mum
I’m waiting on the DN to ask for suggestions. ....
DN now been. Hmm. Don’t think she’s that impressed with the GP
So. Mum is managing 2-3 sips of water. More than that & she vomits. She refuses paracetamol tablets during the day. We’ve requested liquid. They sent soluble
I’ve not phoned as I’d have let rip. She phoned. They are changing back to tablets Another call & they eventually got it. Liquid paracetamol being sent overOnto the next wrong prescription. They are sorting that
Finally get to mums sore lips & now oral thrush. DN phones again & requests satin (?). GP says “can’t it wait till Monday?”
DN. “NO IT CANNOT WAIT TILL MONDAY”
Prescription on it’s way
I love her l
It’s not her usual surgery & she’s finding them “challenging”
I forced down 2 boiled eggs at lunchtime. I’m surviving on coffee, Capt Morgan’s & belVita softbakes. I’m trying to cook when the Carer is here, with the door wide open. Mum smells food & thinks she should eat, but doesn’t want to. I’m trying to stop cooking smells as I feel guilty about the effect on her
DN is going to ask for night sitter from NHS, she said “she’s on her way now” about Mum
I am trying to share it out @jugglingmum. You don’t realise how much you do, until you try to tell someone else. Brother is trying, but hearing aid battery change stumped him. She’s very fidgety & I can guess at lots of things, but he can’t, so it’s still very much up to me. At least I get a few hours proper sleep at night.
Hugs are great. Youngest is an hour away, I’m going to tell him how many he needs to give me
Hugs are great. Youngest is an hour away, I’m going to tell him how many he needs to give me
Hi @rosy18
I think it’s the sudden massive change that I’m struggling with. It’s onky a year since Blackpool, but it’s a different life entirely. Four days & she’s struggling to work out who I am. It’s so fast. Yet, it’s nit fast enough, not if she is hurting. She keeps having a little cry, says she’s feeling sorry for herself, or she’s got something in her eye.
The priest was lovely. She slept peacefully for an hour after his visit. I wish he couid come every day
Heaven knows what the people at the bus stop thought. Car stops. Old boy climbs out, walked over to me & gives me a kiss He is a sweetheart, always asks after Mum & makes a fuss of Pooch
Hugs always welcome
I think it’s the sudden massive change that I’m struggling with. It’s onky a year since Blackpool, but it’s a different life entirely. Four days & she’s struggling to work out who I am. It’s so fast. Yet, it’s nit fast enough, not if she is hurting. She keeps having a little cry, says she’s feeling sorry for herself, or she’s got something in her eye.
The priest was lovely. She slept peacefully for an hour after his visit. I wish he couid come every day
Heaven knows what the people at the bus stop thought. Car stops. Old boy climbs out, walked over to me & gives me a kiss
He is a sweetheart, always asks after Mum & makes a fuss of Pooch Hugs always welcome
