Hello all, I really need some advice. I will try and cut a long story short. My dad suffered a major 2nd stroke in February and due to my mum not being able to cope my dad went into a nursing home. He was quite mobile but lost cognitive skills and was/is very confused. Due to him being upset all the time my step-brother took him out of the home to be his full time carer. (Yes he is my step-dad but the only dad I have ever known) Lots has happened between then and now. There has been bad feeling between my mum and step-brother. Mum feels he has taken everything away from her. He has also had £400 a week for looking after dad. Dad was assessed in hospital as not having mental capacity so court of protection is being sought.
My brother leaves my dad with my mum on a daily basis. He wants him to live with mum again. She won't cope on her own 24/7 dad is 80 and mum is 79. I live 60 miles away and have always been on the scene for mum and dad where other siblings haven't. Mum wants to look after dad and the only way this could be done is to live near me and my children who along with the support of care workers could support mum with dads care. Dad is self funding. My brother is in full support of this as I believe he is not coping. Can anyone please tell me where to start? Myself and my brother will be deputy's for court of protection.
1. Can I approach my local council for sheltered accommodation?
2. House in dads name. Can it be sold once court of protection is sorted to perhaps by a ground floor flat.
3. Mums doctor as registered both mum and dad as vulnerable adults. Should I contact social services?
I'm at my wits end worrying about my mums well being. It would be much better for everyone if they lived nearer. I just don't know where to start.
I've tried to keep this short but there's far more to it.
Thanks Denise x
My brother leaves my dad with my mum on a daily basis. He wants him to live with mum again. She won't cope on her own 24/7 dad is 80 and mum is 79. I live 60 miles away and have always been on the scene for mum and dad where other siblings haven't. Mum wants to look after dad and the only way this could be done is to live near me and my children who along with the support of care workers could support mum with dads care. Dad is self funding. My brother is in full support of this as I believe he is not coping. Can anyone please tell me where to start? Myself and my brother will be deputy's for court of protection.
1. Can I approach my local council for sheltered accommodation?
2. House in dads name. Can it be sold once court of protection is sorted to perhaps by a ground floor flat.
3. Mums doctor as registered both mum and dad as vulnerable adults. Should I contact social services?
I'm at my wits end worrying about my mums well being. It would be much better for everyone if they lived nearer. I just don't know where to start.
I've tried to keep this short but there's far more to it.
Thanks Denise x