Sorry to hear you had such a battle and with so little support from the dementia team. This is where this forum is such s help. People on here are experiencing or have experienced our problems and can often offer excellent advice or suggestions. I hope your wife is happy in her home and that you are now able to relax a little.Hello, I had a similar problem with my wife who is now resident in a care home. She steadfastly refused to shower or change her clothes and would violently resist any attempt to help. The dementia Support Team were asked for their advice and they took a fairly relaxed view of the problem saying that we should just keep trying, after all they said no one ever died of poor personal hygiene! not very helpful, I think. Eventually the problem was solved when my wife entered a care home about seven months ago. The staff eventually wore her down and have reported that she is being showered 19 days a month. Not bad considering what went on at home.