I got a phone call today from Social worker , that care home respite that mum going to on the 29 wants to do an assessment on mum before she arrives
I told social worker how upset my mum get if I tell her to far of the date that she going to respite , she told me to talk to the woman about it when I phone .
I also ask if its a residential dementia home , she said that seeing that my mother has been diagnosed with dementia she not allowed to go to any other kind of residential care home , glad to hear that .
So I phone the home , ask her what the assessment was about , she said she has to ask my mother question told her mum hate question as she think they nothing wrong with her get right paranoid , yes I was forwarding her , she seem to get my point without me saying it , she said don't worry I have been told to f off before , they also have an EMI unit
It was so good to talk to someone who understood , I did tell her that can't she ask me the question , she said she needs to see my mother , told her mum not that bad its one's she in home she find she not violent or anything .
I am just thinking of myself really , She was going to come this week , but that would of meant weeks of distress , irrational thoughts why do I need respite am abandoning her , don't love her on , you all know the symptoms no amount of reassurance will make her perceive why I need a break so I can keep caring in the further.
so the lady coming on the 24th august just leaving me 4 days that mum will know she going to respite for 2 weeks , God help me all I can do is smile and share
mum have never had an assessment for respite before , why do they do it , what the need for it
why do some home do it , some don't is it a new law that they have to do that an assessment
I told social worker how upset my mum get if I tell her to far of the date that she going to respite , she told me to talk to the woman about it when I phone .
I also ask if its a residential dementia home , she said that seeing that my mother has been diagnosed with dementia she not allowed to go to any other kind of residential care home , glad to hear that .
So I phone the home , ask her what the assessment was about , she said she has to ask my mother question told her mum hate question as she think they nothing wrong with her get right paranoid , yes I was forwarding her , she seem to get my point without me saying it , she said don't worry I have been told to f off before , they also have an EMI unit
It was so good to talk to someone who understood , I did tell her that can't she ask me the question , she said she needs to see my mother , told her mum not that bad its one's she in home she find she not violent or anything .
I am just thinking of myself really , She was going to come this week , but that would of meant weeks of distress , irrational thoughts why do I need respite am abandoning her , don't love her on , you all know the symptoms no amount of reassurance will make her perceive why I need a break so I can keep caring in the further.
so the lady coming on the 24th august just leaving me 4 days that mum will know she going to respite for 2 weeks , God help me all I can do is smile and share
mum have never had an assessment for respite before , why do they do it , what the need for it
why do some home do it , some don't is it a new law that they have to do that an assessment