hello everyone, looking some advice please. My mum was admitted to hospital 3 weeks ago due to a bang on her head and strange behaviour a few days after - hallucinations, confusion, refusal to sleep etc. has wandered a little in the past. previously she had been referred to memory clinic. Ct scan at hospital revealed what looks like dementia. They now think she has lewey body dementia and we are awaiting a datscan and formal diagnosis. On the day of admission lots of questions were asked and social worker sat me down like it was an intervention and they told me she should be in full time care.
Sorry this is long.
So week 1 in hospital she was extremely confused. People could talk about dementia in front of her and she didnt notice. Week 2 she started getting much better and i requested we look into a care package at home (she lives in an annex not connected to my house). We had got a care package confirmed ( 3 carers and blister pack for medication as she had been double dosing heart meds) etc then she the day or 2 she was going to be discharged she decided to try to escape the hospital and had to be sedated. Told me a very wild story about what had happened. Social worker etc took it very seriously for a day or so. I explained i was obviously rethinking her coming home. They did a capacity test and she failed. They did it a few times til she passed then said cause she passed she can come home if she wants to which she does.
she still seemed extremely confused and unable to retain any info and the social worker continued to push for her to come home. Told me i can sedate her next time she gets agitated (i said no multiple times) social worker asked can i work from home more, can my partner work from home more etc. can we make sure she is supervised as much as possible etc. the months before she went to hospital has been hell. Constant phone calls, constant fights, not recognising me etc. hallucinations, its been v bad. So i put my foot down and said she can come home but it is your responsibility not mine. I cannot be a carer. I work full time and am out of the house 11 hours a day. So they now say she has fluctuating capacity.
Still very long. So they proceed to find a assessment bed in a care home. Had to be an emi bed as she occasionally wanders. It is only day 2 but it is awful. I was on the phone with her and all you can hear is screaming and doors slamming. One woman got agressive with her, screamed in her face and went to strike her (according to my mum, which i believe) my mum is having her better sets of days at the mo in terms on confusion. So she is fully aware of the other patients. The way the care home was described to me was that she would have so much company. There would be activities and we could spend quality time together as all the mundane tasks would be taken care off. This is more like a jail. It is a highly secure site with advanced stage dementia patients. I spoke with the staff and they said she doesnt fit in and will probably be quite lonely.
Does any one have any advice?
If this is where she is going to be cause she wanders i would rather she took her chances at home, it is like a horror institution. How long do these assessments take? Does it sound like she needs care?
Many thanks for reading
Sorry this is long.
So week 1 in hospital she was extremely confused. People could talk about dementia in front of her and she didnt notice. Week 2 she started getting much better and i requested we look into a care package at home (she lives in an annex not connected to my house). We had got a care package confirmed ( 3 carers and blister pack for medication as she had been double dosing heart meds) etc then she the day or 2 she was going to be discharged she decided to try to escape the hospital and had to be sedated. Told me a very wild story about what had happened. Social worker etc took it very seriously for a day or so. I explained i was obviously rethinking her coming home. They did a capacity test and she failed. They did it a few times til she passed then said cause she passed she can come home if she wants to which she does.
she still seemed extremely confused and unable to retain any info and the social worker continued to push for her to come home. Told me i can sedate her next time she gets agitated (i said no multiple times) social worker asked can i work from home more, can my partner work from home more etc. can we make sure she is supervised as much as possible etc. the months before she went to hospital has been hell. Constant phone calls, constant fights, not recognising me etc. hallucinations, its been v bad. So i put my foot down and said she can come home but it is your responsibility not mine. I cannot be a carer. I work full time and am out of the house 11 hours a day. So they now say she has fluctuating capacity.
Still very long. So they proceed to find a assessment bed in a care home. Had to be an emi bed as she occasionally wanders. It is only day 2 but it is awful. I was on the phone with her and all you can hear is screaming and doors slamming. One woman got agressive with her, screamed in her face and went to strike her (according to my mum, which i believe) my mum is having her better sets of days at the mo in terms on confusion. So she is fully aware of the other patients. The way the care home was described to me was that she would have so much company. There would be activities and we could spend quality time together as all the mundane tasks would be taken care off. This is more like a jail. It is a highly secure site with advanced stage dementia patients. I spoke with the staff and they said she doesnt fit in and will probably be quite lonely.
Does any one have any advice?
If this is where she is going to be cause she wanders i would rather she took her chances at home, it is like a horror institution. How long do these assessments take? Does it sound like she needs care?
Many thanks for reading