My Mum is 97 with moderate dementia - very poor short term memory, volatile moods, and often agitated. Also has heart failure. My sister lives with her. I am there quite often and my sister goes out. My sister and she are very close but even my sister gets angry sometimes. My sister has her own health problems but is mostly more or less OK. My mother is very protective towards my sister. Sometimes my mother is quite nice to me and will thank me for my care and company - or ask reasonable questions such if it is too airy for me when she winds the car window down.
But often she is verbally aggressive and nasty. It is often sort of symbolic - such as throwing the newspapers on the floor when asked about something she doesn't want to do or if her wishes are not met straight away, or sweeping (smallish) stuff off a table . I ask who is to pick it up and told it is my job.
She doesn't do this much to my sister.
Many people have remarked that she is horrible to me.(at times)
She quite often behaves very badly towards to my partner and to a cousin who sometimes cares for her. (And others)They both seem to be able to "ride" it emotionally but I find it very very upsetting...
What to do?
But often she is verbally aggressive and nasty. It is often sort of symbolic - such as throwing the newspapers on the floor when asked about something she doesn't want to do or if her wishes are not met straight away, or sweeping (smallish) stuff off a table . I ask who is to pick it up and told it is my job.
She doesn't do this much to my sister.
Many people have remarked that she is horrible to me.(at times)
She quite often behaves very badly towards to my partner and to a cousin who sometimes cares for her. (And others)They both seem to be able to "ride" it emotionally but I find it very very upsetting...
What to do?