Hello I'm Susie,
My 88 year old dad is caring full time for my 81 year old step mum with Alzheimer's.
He is a proud man, old school, get on with it and play the hand you've been dealt kind of attitude - A true inspiration.
However his reluctance to accept the illness, the help we so need and Doreen's deterioration is his downfall with the positive attitude he has.
I support daily in any way my dad needs me, but night times are proving to be our main problem.
This is where any help and advice is needed please.
Doreen feels like she needs the loo numerous times in the night, meaning Dad is up and down trying to get her to the toilet, but she won't/can't move sometimes and he isn't strong enough to move her. She won't go to the loo in night pants. They still sleep together in the same bed as dad needs to be with her as she wanders, so can't sleep himself with worry.
My dad is shattered and obviously taking its toll on him. He won't have people help in the house as he's a private person and he will 100% not allowed Doreen to go into a home.
Anyone have any suggestions, please. I was called round at 5.30am this morning to get her back into bed, which I don't mind, but I have a family at home.
I can see dad going downhill as Doreen deteriorates. It's heartbreaking as he does everything for her, dresses her, showers her, feeds her etc. Thanks for reading this if you have stuck with my rambling message!
My 88 year old dad is caring full time for my 81 year old step mum with Alzheimer's.
He is a proud man, old school, get on with it and play the hand you've been dealt kind of attitude - A true inspiration.
However his reluctance to accept the illness, the help we so need and Doreen's deterioration is his downfall with the positive attitude he has.
I support daily in any way my dad needs me, but night times are proving to be our main problem.
This is where any help and advice is needed please.
Doreen feels like she needs the loo numerous times in the night, meaning Dad is up and down trying to get her to the toilet, but she won't/can't move sometimes and he isn't strong enough to move her. She won't go to the loo in night pants. They still sleep together in the same bed as dad needs to be with her as she wanders, so can't sleep himself with worry.
My dad is shattered and obviously taking its toll on him. He won't have people help in the house as he's a private person and he will 100% not allowed Doreen to go into a home.
Anyone have any suggestions, please. I was called round at 5.30am this morning to get her back into bed, which I don't mind, but I have a family at home.
I can see dad going downhill as Doreen deteriorates. It's heartbreaking as he does everything for her, dresses her, showers her, feeds her etc. Thanks for reading this if you have stuck with my rambling message!