Hi ,my mum has vascular dementia and severe heart failure she is 90 years old, and my dad is 85 has copd and other health problems.Myself and my sister have Financial POA for my mum, making decisions together. My sister is my mum's carer and lives with my parents. I have had great problems with my sister concerning my mums care and dad's to
ften coming to big arguments,because of my sisters persistent going against being told by drs etc on my mums medication and her continuos bullying my dad, verbally. Concerning the Poa my sister wouldn't give me any information concerning my mums bank account or her savings.I have managed to get the code and now gey my mums bank statements, but concerning savings,my sister hasn't given me any answer to requesting these. She has changed my mums funeral plan to burial from cremation,as she said it was what my mums wants, but we had a meeting before my mum lost capacity and mum said she wanted to be cremated to be with her dad and brothers, but my sister has argued it,and says my mums savings it's for burial,as her funeral plan covers only cremation.She has drove into my dad that my mum wants burial, so it's very upsetting she's going against my mums wishes.my mum wanted her savings to go to my dad and her grandchildren. My sisters gets carers allowance and universal credit but doesn't pay towards anything in the house, only council tax.She gets my dad to pat for things like milk daily,for her dog, my mums creams or extra pads.I see alot going from mums bank to amazon, but she doesn't even pay towards gas electric or food shopping. Is there anything can be done about this? I feel she is abusing the vulnerability and it's abuse. Any opinions or advice will be great fully appreciated thanks Kim