Any advice would be appreciated

[kimnjohn69]

Hi myself and my sister do not get on,she is my mum's carer,my mum has vascular dementia and severe heart failure she is 89.My dad also loves at home he is 85 and has many health problems. Me and my sister have financial POA for my mum, as now she doesn't have mental capacity, she also has DNR in place. Back in 2018 my mum had DNR put in place and we had a family meeting to discuss the horrible conversation of mum and dad's funeral plans.My mum and my dad both agreed cremation.my dad set up funeral plans for them both, but last year my sister changed my mums funeral plan from cremation to burial, but not my dads.we have had endless arguments over my mums medication, and her care, but this needs to be dealt with. She has told my dad that he needs to talk to funeral plan company to make sure burial for my mum is in place, but this is since we argued she was going against my mums wishes.Also my mum has savings and my sister is saying it is for the burial etc but my mum and dad said it was to be for my dad and my mums kids and grandchildren,but my sister has manipulated my dad to believe it's for funeral.Is there anything I can do legally to stop her going against my mums wishes? Please can anyone advise thanks Kim

 

[Suzysheep01]

If you think she is financially abusing your parents you can report her to the office of the public guardian.
it’s awful when you don’t get on…. I get it.

 

[Tavy]

Not knowing all the ins and outs I would suggest a visit to your local Citizen's advice center for starters.
Very informative, not judgemental and all in the strictest confidence.

I was a volunteer with them for many years and never came across an issue that could not be sorted, may not be the answer that some may not want to hear but it will be the facts.