Hi Everyone,
I haven't been on for a while. Dad has been in the care home for a week now. He has fallen over twice and still isn't eating (8 weeks now).
That's not what I need help with, I don't understand all the implications of self funding . I have got a form to sign from social services but don't really understand what I am agreeing to. Initially I told the social worker that I wouldn't sign it as she hadn't put the care plan with it and it says I would be agreeing to it. How can I agree with something if I carn't see it?
My real dilema is, do we sell Dad's house or keep it? Does anyone know if there are any benefits in keeping it or in selling now? My family situation is complicated as I have had no help in caring for Dad over the years and he is now in care due to the rest of the family not helping. I am not therefore interested in keeping the house as inheritance as I don't feel that my siblings deserve anything. Obviously I won't get anything either but that doesn't bother me. So what I am asking is... better to sell or better to keep it. Oh and if we keep it, it needs some work and then they want to rent it. I am not in any mind to help with work as I feel agreived that they wouldn't do it before but now the money might run out they want to do the work so the house might gain value. Thay say to help Dad but who knows?
Anyone been here and done this before? I would be really greatful for any wisdom.
Sally
I haven't been on for a while. Dad has been in the care home for a week now. He has fallen over twice and still isn't eating (8 weeks now).
That's not what I need help with, I don't understand all the implications of self funding . I have got a form to sign from social services but don't really understand what I am agreeing to. Initially I told the social worker that I wouldn't sign it as she hadn't put the care plan with it and it says I would be agreeing to it. How can I agree with something if I carn't see it?
My real dilema is, do we sell Dad's house or keep it? Does anyone know if there are any benefits in keeping it or in selling now? My family situation is complicated as I have had no help in caring for Dad over the years and he is now in care due to the rest of the family not helping. I am not therefore interested in keeping the house as inheritance as I don't feel that my siblings deserve anything. Obviously I won't get anything either but that doesn't bother me. So what I am asking is... better to sell or better to keep it. Oh and if we keep it, it needs some work and then they want to rent it. I am not in any mind to help with work as I feel agreived that they wouldn't do it before but now the money might run out they want to do the work so the house might gain value. Thay say to help Dad but who knows?
Anyone been here and done this before? I would be really greatful for any wisdom.
Sally