Can I give my own feelings on this? Just mine, you will appreciate. We live in a world where many things have been turned upside down over the course of a generation or so. * Things were nice - now they may not be, as dementia comes to stay. * Things that were child-like - inappropriate use of language [in whatever form] in mixed company, for instance - are now considered adult * Things that were adult - respect for the feelings and sensitivities of others - are now considered childish Now, my take on this is that no-one is actually wrong, on either side, in their own worlds. However, in a public forum like Talking Point, we enter neutral territory, a place where we can discuss all sorts of things, but also a place that seeks to be a home from home to everyone. The English language has a very rich vocabulary, and certainly, most members of TP are adult [we must never forget that we do get some very young people on here too, and that carries a responsibility for all of us], so there will always be ways of saying almost anything, in a way that may offend no-one. I'd like to think that, for the good of all, we can each one of us find ways of posting here that will be generally acceptable, in a community that is not only very mixed, but also very vulnerable. At the end of things, TP is here to serve the needs of the many.