My dad has been diagnosed with alzheimers at the start of this year and recently has begun struggling more with daily tasks (forgets shopping once hes paid, cznt use oven but ok with microwave) and withdrawing himself socially (never was particularly social before) and from things he enjoys.
Part of me thinks he should come and live with my family but another part (possibly a bigger one) just doesnt want to do that. I am young and want to have more children in the next couple of years and continue working part time and then go back to full time ( cant afford not to) but cant see that I'd be able to do so if he lived with me. I feel like I'd have to put everything on hold and that would be unfair on my own little family. My own mental health isn't the best either, I get stressed and
overwhelmed easily. I dont think that living with other family would be an option as they dont live nearby.
But these feelings also make me feel guilty that perhaps I'm not doing my best for him to stay out of a home for as long as possible as hes already said he doesnt want to go into a home (I'm aware that this time will come).
Even writing this makes me feel that people are going to say I'm being selfish in thinking of myself over my dad.
I dont really know what I want from this post. I'm at a bit of a loss at what I expect of myself and what I think others expect me to do
Part of me thinks he should come and live with my family but another part (possibly a bigger one) just doesnt want to do that. I am young and want to have more children in the next couple of years and continue working part time and then go back to full time ( cant afford not to) but cant see that I'd be able to do so if he lived with me. I feel like I'd have to put everything on hold and that would be unfair on my own little family. My own mental health isn't the best either, I get stressed and
overwhelmed easily. I dont think that living with other family would be an option as they dont live nearby.
But these feelings also make me feel guilty that perhaps I'm not doing my best for him to stay out of a home for as long as possible as hes already said he doesnt want to go into a home (I'm aware that this time will come).
Even writing this makes me feel that people are going to say I'm being selfish in thinking of myself over my dad.
I dont really know what I want from this post. I'm at a bit of a loss at what I expect of myself and what I think others expect me to do