1. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
    959
    Male
    North West
    I've read the article posted by @Champers a few times and it has been hugely helpful in making the final decisions in whether mum remains at home and how to best move forward from my point of view

    I think in the end as the article concludes we can't rescue our loved ones from dementia, but we can drown trying
     
  2. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,880
    :confused:
     
  3. Mydarlingdaughter

    Mydarlingdaughter Registered User

    Oct 25, 2019
    29
    Unlike a small toddler PWD is an adult, can be heavy, strong, large, and does not regard us adult children as parents whose rules must be obeyed. Parents tend to expect their adult children to continue to follow parents rules. IMO this can be one of the reasons its so hard for adult children to provide care for their PWD parents. Parent insists that they are eating a balanced diet when in fact they are consuming bout 200 calories a day and dangerously underwieght. But parent knows best and cannot be crossed. Gives the message "its my way or the highway".
     
  4. CardiffGirlInEssex

    CardiffGirlInEssex Registered User

    Oct 6, 2018
    61
    This is so true and is undoubtedly why my mum kicked off so badly last week on returning home after 8 weeks in hospital.
     
  5. Lyd

    Lyd Registered User

    May 27, 2019
    58
    I dont really know what I want from this post. I'm at a bit of a loss at what I expect of myself and what I think others expect me to do[/QUOTE]
    Definition of selfish. 1 : concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others. 2 : arising from concern with one's own welfare or advantage in disregard of others a selfish act.

    So no. I dont think you are being selfish. ;)
     
  6. Champers

    Champers Registered User

    Jan 3, 2019
    188
    It’s not the victim or the carer that’s selfish - it’s the disease. It doesn’t care what effect it has on all those who it has in its grasp. It steals what it wants from a personality and sucks and stamps on the good well of those that love the sufferer. It is no respecter of gender, race, class, ability. It has no regard for dignity or comfort. It thoughtlessly strips the uniqueness of a mind.

    But we can all show defiance. By holding the memory of what that person was, whenever we see them, they will continue to be there, even if it’s hidden in the shell in front of us.
     

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