Ah Sylvia...
Dementia was tough on our husbands and on us in the earlier stages. Time has smoothed the sharp edges and and polished the memory a bit, thankfully, as I know I struggled to cope with the whole dementia thing for a long time after Eric was taken into care.
I agree Helen's suffering seems cruel. Sadly I think she is such a strong personality that she is the one calling the shots until she is mentally and physically no longer able to do so. As someone mentioned earlier, Helen is indeed 'raging against the dying of the light'.
I was very hesitant about posting after such a log absence from TP, but in some strange way it felt like the right thing to do
My thoughts and prayers remain with you and Helen and her family. I sincerely hope that Helen will now gain some peace.
With love
Lizzie