Mum is lonely, confused and frightened. She has had a very bad week and has been looking for support in her neighbours. They have been wonderful, keeping an eye out for her and guiding her home when she appears to be lost. One came in with her and gave her a guided tour of her house to reassure her that she is home.
I have been over every day this week to try and help get her through it. On the one day I was planning to stay home, she phoned to beg me to go over as she was stuck in a phone box somewhere in the dark. It was her porch. Last night when I had just come back from her house after a five hour visit, she phoned to demand I came over as she had been abandoned goodness knows where. She was sitting on her stairs.
We have found a care home and I am mentioning it from time to time to introduce the idea. I am now realising this is probably not a good thing to do. But when someone is staring into you eyes, desperate for more help than you can give, what do you do? I try to tell her that there is more out there for her, company, good food things to do etc. I really don't know how I will get her there though, even the assessment required by the care home fills me with dread. Mums default setting is NO NO NO. There aren't any answers, I just wanted to write it down.
I have been over every day this week to try and help get her through it. On the one day I was planning to stay home, she phoned to beg me to go over as she was stuck in a phone box somewhere in the dark. It was her porch. Last night when I had just come back from her house after a five hour visit, she phoned to demand I came over as she had been abandoned goodness knows where. She was sitting on her stairs.
We have found a care home and I am mentioning it from time to time to introduce the idea. I am now realising this is probably not a good thing to do. But when someone is staring into you eyes, desperate for more help than you can give, what do you do? I try to tell her that there is more out there for her, company, good food things to do etc. I really don't know how I will get her there though, even the assessment required by the care home fills me with dread. Mums default setting is NO NO NO. There aren't any answers, I just wanted to write it down.