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[Anomar]

Hello

My husband has vascular dementia and I just want to know if anyone feels the same way as I do. I currently work part time, but find it so sad when I come home at around 6pm and the house is in darkness as 9 out of 10 times he's in bed, where he stays most of the time, he says because he prefers listening to the radio and playinggames on his ipad. He manages to snack throughout the day, though doesn't remember eating, but even when I'm home he does the same. He is diabetic but even with prompting will usually dig his heels in and say he can't be bothered to take his insulin. He is on a huge amount of medication but even with prompting, he regularly refuses to take it. He is seeing the diabetes specialist next week so I'll be able to raise my concerns. He rarely sits with me, and I just feel so cheated, angry and all round sorry for myself which I know is very selfish. I have my own health problems and am awaiting another hip replacement. Thank goodness for our children and grandchildren who are our lifesavers. I hope you don't mind the rant but I already feel a bit better for writing this down

 

[canary]

Hello @Anomar Rant away! We all understand and Im glad it made you feel better
I think we all know about this sense of losing our hopes and dreams for the future and feeling cheated
xx

 

[Anomar]

Hello @Anomar Rant away! We all understand and Im glad it made you feel better
I think we all know about this sense of losing our hopes and dreams for the future and feeling cheated
xx

Hello @Anomar Rant away! We all understand and Im glad it made you feel better
I think we all know about this sense of losing our hopes and dreams for the future and feeling cheated
xx

Thank you canary, it's so nice to speak with people who understand xx

 

[Kevinl]

As canary says, rant away, we are all hear to listen, read or whatever. Managing diabetes can be very difficult on its own let alone for someone with dementia and uncooperative too. K

 

[Anomar]

As canary says, rant away, we are all hear to listen, read or whatever. Managing diabetes can be very difficult on its own let alone for someone with dementia and uncooperative too. K

Thank you Kevinl x

 

[Louise7]

Hello @Anomar and welcome 👋 This is a supportive and friendly place so feel free to have a rant whenever you need one. This is a safe place, and people here understand.

 

[Kevinl]

Diabetes on its own can be a particularly difficult condition to manage early stages, my wife had a thyroid condition and medicating that was hard enough and I say the as someone (many years ago) was an NHS nurse, my wife was too and my mum.
I have given out more medication here at my home than all my time at work, well it feel that way, still mustn't grumble. K

 

[Anomar]

Thank you Kevinl x

Hello @Anomar and welcome 👋 This is a supportive and friendly place so feel free to have a rant whenever you need one. This is a safe place, and people here understand.

Thank you Louise7. I feel so welcomed x

 

[Anomar]

Diabetes on its own can be a particularly difficult condition to manage early stages, my wife had a thyroid condition and medicating that was hard enough and I say the as someone (many years ago) was an NHS nurse, my wife was too and my mum.
I have given out more medication here at my home than all my time at work, well it feel that way, still mustn't grumble. K

Yes I understand, it feels like a pharmacy at our home too. Great career you had as a nurse with many ups and downs I bet, at least from what the nurses I work with say about their work. I am a secretary for the NHS so not hands on.

My husband has had diabetes for many years, taking tablets and insulin and always pretty much kept on top of things, but now doesn't see the point so doesn't care to take it regularly. His other medication he will take if prompted and it's right next to him but if in another room no way will he go to get it, so if I ring him from work to remind him to take them I can never guarantee that he's taken any. Good to try and keep a positive attitude where you can but not always easy I find x